For the night before the wedding

Rehearsal dinner seating, where two families meet.

The rehearsal dinner is often the first time both families share a table. Seat it so they talk to each other, the wedding party gets acquainted, and nobody from out of town ends up at the end with strangers.

Use the rehearsal dinner template

Free for up to 20 guests and 4 tables. No credit card required.

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How it works

Seat a rehearsal dinner in an evening

Fewer guests than the wedding, and every seat matters more.

Most rehearsal dinners are one or two long tables, or a handful of rounds in a restaurant’s back room. Draw what the restaurant is giving you, including where the toasts will be made from.

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What a rehearsal dinner seating plan has to do

Introduce people, host the toasts, and fit a restaurant’s room.

Long tables, done properly

Place long rectangular tables and see seats down both sides and at the ends, so you know who faces whom across the table.

Both families, interleaved

Give each guest a category for their family, and check each table is a mix, not two halves that never meet.

A room you did not choose

Restaurants hand you a room with a pillar in it and a door in the corner. Draw it as it is, and seat around it.

The couple where everyone can see them

Put the couple in the middle of the long side, where the toasts can reach them and the whole room can see them respond.

Meals for a set menu

Restaurants often ask for choices in advance. Record each guest’s choice and dietary needs, then send them the spreadsheet with every seat.

A chart for the host

Print a simple chart for whoever is hosting, or a PDF for the restaurant to set the room from.

Where to start

Who sits where at a rehearsal dinner

By tradition the couple sits together in the middle of the main table, with the hosts, often one set of parents, close by. The other set of parents sits across from them or beside them, because the dinner is partly for the two families to spend real time together.

Put the wedding party near each other but not in a block. Seating a groomsman beside a bridesmaid from the other side is the easiest way to make tomorrow’s wedding party feel like one group.

Look after the guests who have traveled. Out-of-town relatives and old friends often know only one person in the room; seat them beside that person and someone friendly from the other side.

Decide where the toasts come from before you finalize the chart. Whoever speaks needs to be seen, and the couple needs to be facing them.

Helpful resources

See the whole plan

From guest list to the private room

A small room and a short list, laid out so you can see every conversation that will happen.

When a groomsman’s flight is delayed or a grandparent decides to come after all, change two seats and send the new version.

Compared

PlanSeats and a sketch on a napkin

For twelve people, a sketch works. By thirty, with two families, a wedding party and a set menu, the sketch has arrows on it and the restaurant is asking for meal choices by seat.

PlanSeats gives you the room, the seats and the menu choices in one place, and a clean chart for the restaurant.

If you are also seating the wedding, it is the same tool you will use the next day.

Questions

Rehearsal dinner seating questions

Plan your rehearsal dinner seating

Two families, one long table and a set of toasts, arranged so everyone meets the people they should.

Free for up to 20 guests and 4 tables. No credit card required.